Ok, let’s start with the beginning. I am a straight woman dating a bisexual man. We have a good monogamous relationship & we love each other very much & hope to one day to be married. But there is a fluke in our sex life.
We have been dating for over three, almost four, months now and the problem is we haven’t actually HAD sex yet. It’s not like we haven’t tried. We have. But for reasons we can’t understand one of our biggest problems is we can’t keep him hard long enough for him to put it in.
Our second biggest problem is the few times we have been able to keep him up we, for some reason, can’t get him in or can’t find the hold.
The third problem is the even fewer times (like so few I can count them on one hand) that we’ve been able to get him to stick it in we either can’t keep it in to do anything with it or it goes limp again & we can’t do anything with it. We’re not sure why this is.
At first he thought maybe he was gay. But that scenario doesn’t fit. He’s been with a woman before and had no problems then and although he does enjoy gay porn he also enjoys straight porn, lesbian porn, and a whole slew of other porn and while he does enjoy cock he also enjoys pussy. So him being gay doesn’t fit. Then he thought maybe he just wasn’t attracted to me. But that doesn’t fit either. I can get him up easily. He even gets hard when we kiss. He tells me all the time how beautiful he thinks I am. When he masturbates he gets off thinking about fucking me. He enjoys sucking my breasts and eating me out and he tells me multiple times a day how much he loves me. So there has to be attraction to me somewhere or I wouldn’t even be able to get him up. Then we thought that maybe it’s because he hadn’t actually had sex with anyone (man or woman) for thirteen years and even then it hadn’t been very much so it’ll just take time. But it’s been almost four months! Then he thought that maybe he was just too small, but that’s not true. He’s actually of average size and while I have had bigger I have also had smaller and have never had this problem before. Then we thought it might be erectile dysfunction. But he gets it up and keeps it up fine while masturbating, which he does a lot of.
He wants to penetrate me, he gets hard thinking about it, and I want him to too. I want us to get to the point of getting him to cum inside me. He has made me orgasm quite a few times by fingering me, but it’s not the same and I feel bad because I have only been able to make him cum twice. The first time being on our third month anniversary thanks to a handjob and a ton of baby oil. The second being just a few hours before I wrote this thanks to another handjob and him getting off on fingering me. But still, we both want the one thing the universe won’t seem to let us have. Can anyone out there help me with this problem and tell me how to resolve our issues so we can take our relationship to the next level?